I'm not sure, exactly. I don't think she's ever really thought about it so much, but I've been talking about it a lot more recently and she hasn't been objecting, so hopefully God is working in her!
About the modest clothes, my family has always considered themselves to be fairly modest-dressers. Where my dad's from, clothing was pretty modest/covering most of the time, due in no small part I think to the weather. He's always had guidelines for what we could wear and would stop us from wearing anything he termed 'indecent' (for example, no short shorts or miniskirts, no low-cut necklines, wear shirts/dresses with sleeves on to the table, no bare midriffs or walking around topless/naked, even after a bath [which my sister did a lot when she was small and didn't know better]). When we were small, my sister and I wore a LOT of dresses, I think mostly due to our grandmothers when we were very small (lots of smocked dresses) and because it was sort of fashionable when we were older (around the turn of the century, these sort of stretchy sort of floral dresses were popular for young girls. They're hard to explain and you can't get them anymore.).
Mostly my clothes are because I feel they're more comfortable. My mother likes the fact that I dress modestly (as opposed to my sister, who does her best to go the other way, much to my parents' distress) and I think she just doesn't understand it. Recently her own clothes have been getting less and less modest (lower necklines, for one) and when I pointed it out, she said something about it being the fashion and not being able to find modest-er clothing. This is a bit of nonesense I think as I often find more decent clothing in her size. I'm not sure whether her being less modest in dress is because of me being more modest, and I pray it's not, but it's been a very gradual thing and I don't think she's noticed. I know she's proud of me for dresses modestly and sticking to my beliefs but she doesn't want to do it herself. Again, I'm not sure why.
My father has also been getting less strict about clothing but not to the point of wearing un-modest clothing, but he just seems to care less about looking neat and orderly. There was a time when he wouldn't wear jeans to church, he would always wear nice trousers, a button-down shirt, and a tie, even in summer, and maybe a jacket in winter. Now he seems content to wear jeans and a t-shirt or polo shirt to church. Sometimes when I worry that he looks a bit daggy, and question him about it (it's difficult because I don't want to seem demanding or presumptuous - I'm his daughter, after all), and usually he just hasn't realised that what he's wearing might be inappropriate, and goes and changes. He hasn't stopped my sister from wearing anything in a while, but mostly she hasn't been exposing her body so much as she used to. She hasn't been wearing skirts as much as she used to, but he doesn't mind that so much.
In conclusion, I frankly have no idea where my family and I disagree on clothing. It's confusing and since I have really definitive beliefs on the matter (most of the time I wear what I wear because it's more comfortable, sometimes physical comfort, but I don't think I would be psychologically comfortable in a short skirt and if it's windy, I continually shake my skirt out so it hangs all the way down my legs again [instead of creaping up by being blown by the wind], even though I wear stockings or long socks and pantaloons underneath). Most of the time my parents and I believe much the same things about modestly and clothing, I just take it a little bit further - generally we all agree on what areas of the body oughtn't to be uncovered, but where they'll say that thighs shouldn't be uncovered and wear a longer pair of shorts, I would say that thighs shouldn't be uncovered and wear a below-the-knee skirt because that way it's looser and won't show the shape of the thighs so much. It's confusing. It's easier to say where we differ with headcovering, so onwards:
My mother believes, I think, that the hair is the covering. I've not really discussed this with her beyond the initial "I beleive God is telling me to wear a headcovering and this is why" talk about two years ago, although I haven't refrained from mentioning my views in conversation where appropriate (and my sister and father often comment on my headcovering, so this is fairly regular). I don't really understand her beliefs on this, especially as if she believes that hair is the covering, surely she believes that *long* hair is the covering and thus why did she ask me to cut her and my sister's hair two weeks ago? I did it because she's my mother and she asked me to, but I did question her at the time, and she just brought up something about split ends and God surely not wanting us to walk around the dreadful-looking split-ended hair. As I had chopped about 5 inches of hair of hers, I fail to see how this was relevent... and I refrained from mentioning that if God wanted us to wear a headcovering, no-one would see the split ends anyway. But I did find an interesting article here
http://christianinstitute.com/headcoverings/trimmingsplitends.htm about trimming split ends without cutting length, in case you're interested.
So I'm not sure what's up with that but I think that it's mostly she knows that she ought to cover and/or have long hair, but she just doesn't want to for some reasons. I know she finds long hair hot and hard to care for. I think the covering is more it being a socially unacceptable thing to do - at least, unlike most Christians, she knows it's the right thing and choses not to do it, as opposed to so many others who live in ignorance. But she's grown more open about my headcovering and is willing to discuss it with me, so I pray God is working in her heart on this. She understands how important it is to me, and would never ask me to stop wearing the headcovering. She used to ask me whether I would take it off for some things, but I think she has realised that I wouldn't do that... or maybe she knows what I'm doing is right and thus won't stop me. I don't know.
As for my sister... well, she won't even think about it. She listens, now (she used to ignore it and me for being 'embarrassing'), but at this point she would never wear a headcovering or even wear skirts most of the time. She's a lot more worried about her social life than I ever was (I was always a bit of a loner and did what I wanted rather than what it was popular to do) and wouldn't do anything that would be percieved as weird. But at least she listens to why I do it rather than ignoring me, so I trust that God is working in her heart, too. Perhaps when we visit America (which is a distinct possibility for late this year), we can visit you and you could talk to her about it - she's closer to your age and might listen to you more than she does me, as I've always been a little weird.
Anyway, I'm sure this has been very confusing and not answered your question at all. In short, I don't know. But writing this all down has been very helpful for me sorting some things out about it all. I guess sometimes I'm a little jealous of you, having parent who are much on the same page as you about clothing and headcovering and everything. My family is going through it all at completely different paces, and I can only pray that God is working in each of them on everything. God is all-knowing and all-powerful afterall; thus he must know what is best. Perhaps there is another area of their lives which he is working in and I don't know about it.
from Rachel.